Coaching sessions
FamilyLab has held hundreds of Coaching Sessions with families who have encountered challenging situations. You are able get a copy of a transcript. They are all based on a letter or e-mail written to FamilyLab, a brief pre-coaching interview, a one or two hour session and a follow-up interview. Nothing is made up - except for the name, which have been changed for privacy reasons.
More than 30 transcripts are available. Below are a few introductions. If you would like one of these or a transcript concerning an other topic please fill in the form.
Transcripts have been published in Australian and New Zealand media. If the topic you are interested in has been published, we will refer you to that publication.
More than 30 transcripts are available. Below are a few introductions. If you would like one of these or a transcript concerning an other topic please fill in the form.
Transcripts have been published in Australian and New Zealand media. If the topic you are interested in has been published, we will refer you to that publication.
My Child Magazine
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"Violent boy at child care"
My Child Magazine "Family Matters":
Nick is almost two and full of energy. Now he is in trouble at child care. His parents are told that he is violent and snatches toys by using his force to get what he wants. Other parents look at them with despair knowing that Nick might hit their child later that day. What can Nick’s parents do so he does not become “the horror kid”?
The FamilyLab therapist tells Nick's father to wrestle and be rough with him. He also makes it clear that: "Nobody should tell Nick off. He simply cannot learn appropriate behaviour while he is criticised!"
Read the article below:
Nick is almost two and full of energy. Now he is in trouble at child care. His parents are told that he is violent and snatches toys by using his force to get what he wants. Other parents look at them with despair knowing that Nick might hit their child later that day. What can Nick’s parents do so he does not become “the horror kid”?
The FamilyLab therapist tells Nick's father to wrestle and be rough with him. He also makes it clear that: "Nobody should tell Nick off. He simply cannot learn appropriate behaviour while he is criticised!"
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"When mum's the word"
My Child Magazine "Family Matters":
Jessica is five and Isabella two. The family has recently moved, Frank is working hard and Judy spends most of her time looking after the girls. She is desperate for some time out but the girls only want her. When Frank tries to get involved it always ends in tears. How can Frank connect with his daughters so Judy can get some time off?
The FamilyLab therapist tells Frank to send Judy out for a walk so he can take over. He says to Frank: "Give Judy time to acknowledge that you are right... because you are right!"
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Jessica is five and Isabella two. The family has recently moved, Frank is working hard and Judy spends most of her time looking after the girls. She is desperate for some time out but the girls only want her. When Frank tries to get involved it always ends in tears. How can Frank connect with his daughters so Judy can get some time off?
The FamilyLab therapist tells Frank to send Judy out for a walk so he can take over. He says to Frank: "Give Judy time to acknowledge that you are right... because you are right!"
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"Help! Our kids have taken over"
Anne and Karl have a son, aged 10 and a set of twin girls, aged 8. They are rude, misbehave, and when they are asked to help out they just throw tantrums. The many conflicts are taking their toll on the parents. It is draining on their relationship and both of them have an urgent need for some time out.
The FamilyLab therapist tells Anne and Karl to show more leadership. At the moment they are simply re-acting. Yet, the children need leadership because at the moment they feel very uncomfortable. How are Anne and Karl able to regain control?
The FamilyLab therapist tells Anne and Karl to show more leadership. At the moment they are simply re-acting. Yet, the children need leadership because at the moment they feel very uncomfortable. How are Anne and Karl able to regain control?
"How should we punish our son?"
Henry is 10 and the eldest of three sons. He is quite different from the others as he has been diagnosed with ADHD. His father, Ben believes some punishment is all right and sticking to the consequences is important. Hanne, on the other hand prefers a more sympathetic approach. She wants to show consideration for Henry’s situation. Their differences are critical.
The FamilyLab therapist tells Ben and Hanna that punishment doesn’t work. When you punish him you tell him he is not good enough. And there is no point in “teaching” him what to do either. How can Hanne and Ben stop trying to "be parents"? And is Ben willing to let go of his power?
The FamilyLab therapist tells Ben and Hanna that punishment doesn’t work. When you punish him you tell him he is not good enough. And there is no point in “teaching” him what to do either. How can Hanne and Ben stop trying to "be parents"? And is Ben willing to let go of his power?
"My children don’t lift a finger at home"
Mary is a single mum. She runs her own business and gets most of her work done while her sons Kristian and John are at their fathers so she is able to spend a lot of time with them when they are at her place. To Mary’s frustration, the boys don’t lift a finger. They don’t help around the house and ignore her requests whenever she asks.
After challenging her priorities, the FamilyLab therapist reminds Mary that parents often see it as a sign of love to do everything for their children but it is actually very humiliating for them. Mary has to hand over responsibility to her children. But first she has to accept that they will do things their way - not hers. How can she do that?
After challenging her priorities, the FamilyLab therapist reminds Mary that parents often see it as a sign of love to do everything for their children but it is actually very humiliating for them. Mary has to hand over responsibility to her children. But first she has to accept that they will do things their way - not hers. How can she do that?
"Our son is really shy"
Andrew is six years old and very shy. He finds it difficult - if not impossible - to engage with the other children at school. He also finds it difficult to play by himself. His parents fear it is their fault because they have always spend a lot of time playing with him. The more they push him the more he withdraws. But they don’t want to leave him alone either as they don’t want him to become a social misfit. Andrew's mum, Susan thinks he needs to develop social skills very soon or it will be too late.
The FamilyLab therapist challenges Susan: It sounds like Andrew feels like a burden to you. Stop thinking about him as a problem. Leave him to himself and accept that this is the way he is. How is Susan going to do that?
The FamilyLab therapist challenges Susan: It sounds like Andrew feels like a burden to you. Stop thinking about him as a problem. Leave him to himself and accept that this is the way he is. How is Susan going to do that?
"She doesn't listen to our instructions"
Pete and Jane have a daughter, Maria, aged 8. They feel Maria lacks respect for the way they treat her. They say she is overreacting when they give her some very simple instructions. The parents believe it is important that Maria is able to follow instruction - for her own sake - especially later in life. The atmosphere in their household is tense.
After listening to Pete and Jane, the FamilyLab therapist tells them to stop correcting Maria. “Let her do as she pleases!” He also suggest that they start showing genuine emotions: “A child needs to grow up with parents - not actors.” How would Maria react to that?
After listening to Pete and Jane, the FamilyLab therapist tells them to stop correcting Maria. “Let her do as she pleases!” He also suggest that they start showing genuine emotions: “A child needs to grow up with parents - not actors.” How would Maria react to that?
Other topics...?
We have a never ending list of coachings and articles about nearly any topic. Check the list below and let us know if you would like to read one.
Our baby doesn’t sleep
Violent boy at child care
My daughter wants to be the boss
Out 3 year old already has attitude
Lonely 4 year old girl
He gives up before he even starts
Big sister is mean to her younger brother
Our son is being bullied
When mum’s the word
How do I give my children a sense of security?
Bonus-dad or just a friend?
Our son hits other children
I’m ready for a new partner but what about my son’s father?
Why does out son want to get in trouble?
Is my son ready for school?
After separating we disagree even more
Younger brother rejects his baby sister
Daughter feel responsible for dad’s life
Daughter is searching for her parents
A son misses his dad
Doesn’t like being touched
Big boy still poos in his pants
Wants to live with mum
Our son lies
Give the kids more responsibility
It is difficult to be fair
She doesn’t listen to our instructions
Our baby doesn’t sleep
Violent boy at child care
My daughter wants to be the boss
Out 3 year old already has attitude
Lonely 4 year old girl
He gives up before he even starts
Big sister is mean to her younger brother
Our son is being bullied
When mum’s the word
How do I give my children a sense of security?
Bonus-dad or just a friend?
Our son hits other children
I’m ready for a new partner but what about my son’s father?
Why does out son want to get in trouble?
Is my son ready for school?
After separating we disagree even more
Younger brother rejects his baby sister
Daughter feel responsible for dad’s life
Daughter is searching for her parents
A son misses his dad
Doesn’t like being touched
Big boy still poos in his pants
Wants to live with mum
Our son lies
Give the kids more responsibility
It is difficult to be fair
She doesn’t listen to our instructions
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